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A prolific communication day today!

No less than seventeen emails...I think it's a record that is never to be broken.

I just counted them, and it's 9 from her and 8 from me (not that it matters).

All small stuff, most one-liners, a couple longer ones...but really nice and a good feeling of connection throughout the day.

I don't really count it as a baby step, but she does have days where she is more likely to stay connected with me...and it looks like today's one of those days.

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Cool!!!


Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*

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Alright Mink. Wasn't it you who was going to go a little dark. I feel really good for you Pal! Nice work!

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Yeah I was dimmed down for a little while...but I need to keep my eye on the temperature gauge as well.

Her big beef about me was that I refused to communicate in our relationship.

So now, if she wants to talk, I'll talk.

Never again will I make that mistake.

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That's da thing with DBing you kinda gotta taylor it to your situation. All quite here, no arguing.

Good night

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Mink,

Been tracking along your thread of late. You are really investing in making changes in yourself for you. That really comes through in what you are sharing. I imagine it must sometimes be a tough balance to keep when you hear some of the things she says re: not reconciling. It sounds very much like some of what my W. has said. You are doing a really nice job of keeping yourself grounded. I'm trying to learn from what you are doing!!

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Thanks Purr. Learning from each other's sitches is what makes these boards valuable.

I figured after an hour long phone convo last night and 17 emails today...I better not be the one to initiate any contact tonight.

So I practiced some guitar parts for my rock band audition tomorrow night, and now I'm sitting here watching "Fargo" with a nice glass of Merlot.

Life is pretty good, no complaints, it would simply be better if we could get busy on the marriage!

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MM, you're in a perfect state of mind. I have to add also that you're an inspiration to me.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

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Those of you following my saga know that I am auditioning for a spot in a rock 'n roll band tonight, and that I sold my car yesterday. So I am temporarily on foot, and on public transit. So I'm in a bit of a pickle!

Just now, W called (it's 5:45am here) and offered me the use of her car if I needed it. What a sweetie. Very nice gesture on her part. She also wished meluck in my audition and told me "have fun, that's what it's really all about".

Nice start to the day!

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Just journaling really.

W just called, was sweet as pie...once again wishing me well in my audition. Said "please call me when you're home...I want to hear how it went!"

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Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!
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