[/quote] I thought it was a sad commentary that I had to pay someone to do that, but my husband was not very nice to me at that time in my life. [quote]
Sara,
Bet he wants to now!
You offer good advise. Everyone appreciates it Im sure.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
As much as I'd like some affection from my husband, when it comes to massage, I'd pick my chiropractor any day. I've always said he has "magic fingers" because he just zooms into the source and releases the knot. I guess he's not distracted by other things? When my sciatica or IT band is bothering me, he lays me on my side and digs his elbow into my hip. Ouch! at first, but then I can feel the tightness melting away and I'm in heaven after than.
OK, getting off computer and making a chiropractic appointment, I haven't been in six weeks or so...
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
It will my 1 year on April 12 that my world stopped turning. Like a person drowning in water I was lasing out and grabbing anything I could. I felt like I was going under and I asked someone here. "How long will it take to "fix" my marriage?" That wise DBer said.” It will take as long as it takes". I have heard from Saffie, Sara, Tal, Yoyo and many others Baby steps, baby steps....
Today W got a call for a job. BUT..... She declined it. I am ok with that. It was an evening job and she has a hard time driving at night and she is the smart one in the family that helps son with his home work so she needs to be here at night, But job offer is a Very good sign. And I told her so. It means there are jobs out there. I feel the end is near... I feel that soon she will have her job and I will need to be strong and NOT fall into that "comfort Zone". I have worked to hard and came too far to settle for anything. I will need to act on my request for retro soon. I can't take the easy way out and settle. I have been through hell and back...I could have blown it all out of the water, I could have told the world and cried about the injustice I suffered but I did not.. What has gotten me this far??
patience Saint Francis De Sales Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections, but instantly set about remedying them – every day begin the task anew.
Lao Tzu Trying to understand is like straining through muddy water. Be still and allow the mud to settle.
Michelangelo Genius is eternal patience.
Thomas Henry Huxley Patience and tenacity of purpose are worth more than twice their weight of cleverness.
Hesiod If you add a little to a little, and then do it again, soon that little shall be much.
Turkish proverb Patience is the key to paradise.
Chinese proverb With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes satin. With time the patience the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown.
John Dryden Beware the fury of a patient man.
Horace Patience makes lighter what sorrow may not heal.
They Call me DrLOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Thank you JAK, I really did need a compliment today. Hub, you're getting so deep! One of my dance teachers once said to us, "Wishing won't make it happen." That too was wise advice.
It might be the pain Killers... No really I needed to take 3 yesterday just to get through work. Today just two. Hopefully tomorrow 1. I can't take more I am going to try to meet Nephew again.....
WOW did you see that LWB had 34 people viewing the thread? I have been here ... Well l too long and I have Never seen that many people here at once...
You go girl... OUR next moderator....... H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I was starting to worry about ya. Hey IT"S FRIDAY.....
Had a Little talk With W last night Nothing R. But it was nice to hear her talk about the need to get a sitter or send son to Boys & girls club WHEN she gets a job. Positive thoughts.... Saffie.... I am about ready to get called on my actions...And I know you and especially SARA will not let me down. I will need both of you to keep on my case. I can feel that "comfortable Zone" coming on. NOW is not the time to let my Guard down. WE NEED RETRO. But I am a little nervous about going. Now more than ever I will need to GAL and Keep a PMA. My Readings:
Pisces February 19 - March 20 A friend may be experiencing some relationship problems right now, but helping them out is not your obligation. Even if you think you know exactly what they need to do to get out of this mess, bite your tongue and just let them deal with it on their own. There is a lesson here that they need to learn -- it will help them grow. Plus, if you get involved, you could end up being the bad guy. There are details you are not aware of, so just stay out of things.
(could this be nephew???? I do have the feeling that SIL will be upset that I am hanging around him)
Leo July 23 - August 22 Do not be too alarmed if some problems you're having at home start to spill over into your social life. No harm will come of it. It's only natural that things that are important to you take center stage, especially when they are not going quite right. You might be somewhat distracted during the day, but if you just give yourself some time here and there to process what you're going through, you will feel your enthusiasm and positive thinking building, slowly but surely, throughout the day.
Dr Love....
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I have not worn my wedding ring for about a month or more now. It is on my night stand. W takes her rings off and leaves then on her dresser. In the begining I was taking this personal. I had not removed my ring since our wedding day 15 years ago...But then I found out that the rings are tight and bother her. She does put them back on when she goes out. But here is my Question...I was thinking about putting my ring with her's. Not say anything just do it. IF she askes why I would tell her that I just did not want it to get lost and keep it in a safe place until we worked things out. What I would be trying to acomplish is to send a message to W that everything is not ok. We are not re committed yet. ok what inputs do I have on this?????
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Hmmmmm - I don't know. Has she ever mentioned getting her ring stretched so that it's more comfortable?? I think this sounds to me more like a comfort thing,( physical that is), rather than an emotional one. The fact that she puts it on to go out and she cares what people think makes me feel that, because I would guess she doesn't want your S to think about why his mom takes her ring off. Which makes me feel that she would wear it at home as well if she could.
Does she know why you take yours off? Have you talked about that at all?
My horoscope reading was dead on - as usual!!!!!
Happy Friday
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hmmmmm - I don't know. Has she ever mentioned getting her ring stretched so that it's more comfortable??
I am not worried about her taking her ring off. Yes it is a comfort problem. ( This is the same reason she has given about not sleeping in MY bed. But these are things that we can and will address after we are Re committed. I say let's get a new mattress then...)
But my question was more that do you think "I" can send a signal that "things are still not Right". By putting MY ring with hers??? This would be a message for her. EVERY time she goes to put her rings back on and takes them off.....
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
