Bad News; It was about one year post-bomb before my W's anger faded. She just recently verbalized, "I'm not angry at you anymore." (Blew me away because it was the first time she admitted anger towards me and indicated on some level she was aware that she had been expressing her anger over the past year).
This isn't going to be over anytime soon. Don't even let yourself think of reconcilliation now. You'll only get your hopes up and be disappointed.
Decide what you want.
Get a plan.
Commit yourself to it.
I decided I want my marriage. My plan was to become the better man and wait her (and her mlc) out. I am still committed to it 16 months later and things look better all the time. I still don't let myself consider reconcilliation. Not yet.
You must become the slow blade. Her mlc is the shield.
Last edited by sleeper; 03/27/0811:41 PM.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
