I get the feeling you are projecting your feelings on others on the boards a bit and feeling harshly judged. I am sorry you feel that way. Truly all most people here are looking for is a way it can work in their M's.
Have you heard of a book called Peace Between the Sheets? I have very recently been told about it and I think it could really help me with the romantic / loving / sexual side of my M.
I love my H very much but sometimes I don't feel like I want the intimacy and it bothers ME that I feel like I don't want it. I feel like I should. And the more I feel bad about this area the worse things get until I just withdraw from the R and feel like my H is pursuing me. This book apparently explains quite a lot about the hormonal influences on our bodies and the interactions of the various chemicals and why we feel like we do at certain times.
I hope this helps. It is so hard to get the balance right.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
