I went home last night and told H that he is being unreliable and that he needs to be here for me, so I can work, at 3pm Tues, Wed, and Thurs. I told him if he can't be here, then he either lets me know, or finds someone. That I will no longer assume he is coming unless he tells me. That I will not tell the girls he will be getting them off the bus (thanks Dr. Love!). That these little unreliable things will 'chip' away at them, hurt them, and disappoint them. I told him if he could think of a better way to handle our 'custody' arrangement, to let me know. He accused me of never being clear on my plans. Ok. Um. Yeah.
He was defensive at first, then calmed down. He said "Won't happen again, I'll take care of it". He then went on to spew about a few things (me being 'stubborn' about the house and how to handle it, and other things). I ignored it, said all I wanted to say was what I said, and we could talk about other things at another time (by this time it was 2am). I also said I refuse to discuss the house again until we sit down with a financial professional to discuss our options. He lingered for a bit, kept starting to say something, then would say "Forget it". Old LWB would have pressed "What? Say it". This LWB listened, waited, then ended the conversation.
Oh and he made sure I knew it was 'still over' and that he isn't changing his mind. Thanks, hon.
I am better today, hopefully on an upswing. So very tired though.
H showed up on time today, in a pleasant mood, and took my grocery/Walmart lists off the desk and took the girls shopping. They called from the car, got a few new clothes and were very happy. This is all I want.
Thanks for the support. I don't think H is near rock bottom. I just hope the girls don't suffer anymore.
