The funny thing is that I don't think we ever had one fight about money while we had joint accounts. When we got married we immediately joined everything. He knows he is bad with it so he just turned it over to me. I actually enjoy it so I had no problems with that arrangement. He hates it so liked not having to deal with it. He didn't spend outrageously and he would ask before spending a lot. He always said he never wanted to fight about money and we never did.
I would like for him to call me and ask me to do things with him. We would have to move back in together. At this point I am ready for that, and I feel we would need to do that to ever get anywhere. I would like for him to consider counseling, but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me if he wouldn't go. I would need him to be more open about his phone calls/email. I will really think about this more over the next couple of days.
I haven't read the LL book, but from what I have read about it...I would say mine are physical touch and acts of service. Right now I am really missing that physical touch. I would say H's are words of affirmation and physical touch.
