I don't know what you are looking for to create more excitement. My husband and I have enjoyed my sexy lingerie purchases from Fredericks of Hollywood. I bought those things thinking it might make things hotter for him. But over time I have realized that I enjoy sex more wearing the outfits. It's not an everynight kind of thing. But I like to pull it out once in a while. Fantasy is fun. I take a bellydance class, and for his birthday I wore a bellydancer costume and did a dance for him. We had sex with the costume still on.