Ski, i can relate to your feelings about a lack of apology and remorse. My wife has apologized in the past, but made them sound more like accusations towards me than anything heart felt. We are going to counciling and working towards fixing our old problems, but as for acknowledging the affair, not going to happen.
I've been feeling better little by little, the images come less and less, untill I found his home phone number on her cell phone. I asked about it and she said she hasn't called or talked to him since late January. I do believe her, but asked her to remove it. Not really sure what she mummble under her breath, but a week later it was still there. I asked again a little more directly, and she told me that it being there shouldn't be a problem, because she wasn't using it.
We've gone around and around on this, she has removed it, but i've since found his home and work numbers in our phone book.
It's not so much that i'm finding these things, clothes, phone numbers, notes, and the such, but the attitude she has towards removing them.
Has any one found anything that really helps them when they're feeling down or something gets them headed down? I'd love some ideas other than "TIME".
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I asked again a little more directly, and she told me that it being there shouldn't be a problem, because she wasn't using it. 