No disrespect, but I did not give up easily. I spent 6 months doing everything possible to keep my family together. I go home for 2 weeks and then my W gives me the boot. She also kept in touch with the dude she was dating while we were separated.
Once she canceled the trip to the Bahamas, that was it for me. Done.
In time my daughter will realize her mom has no integrity.
Fish, meaning no disrespect, but I stayed with my W for two years while knowing she was involved in an A. I spent the three previous years hearing "I don't love you anymore". That's how much my M and family meant to me. I know your six months feels like six years but in the big picture it's a drip in a big ocean. I know you're hurting and angry, who wouldn't be feeling that way. Allow yourself to feel your hurt for a bit, take a break from Dbing, just don't do anything dumb like getting yourself involved with someone else, it is a sure fire way to make your life a bigger mess than it might already be! Do some deep breathing because the sun will rise again tomorrow, honest it will! Give yourself time.
In time your daughter will realize that both her parents are lacking.
6 months?
Cry me a river, fish.
How long have you been married?
And you have been pregnant together, had a baby girl, walked the floors with her, suffered through teething together, watched your baby girl learn to roll over, begin to crawl, say her first words...watched her take her first steps back and forth between the two of you. You have looked into your wife's eyes and shared a look you can never, ever share with another person again - even if you were to have MORE kids...have you watched your little girl start school yet, fish? Has she drawn pictures of her family for her class? Are they pics of her with mommy and daddy on either side? Or will it be her and mommy in one picture and her and daddy in another?
For six years you have raised a little girl together. In six years people go through changes and they can get their heads turned around backwards. When that happens to one or both of you, the one that seeks to save the marriage bears the biggest burden. That why I think it ends up on the shoulders of the spouse that has the most potential for strength.
I don't think you're through.
But you can certainly quit.
And just so you know, it's fine if you want to bitch at me. I don't get offended easily.
So long as you don't mind being kicked around on the pier a while.
I am not angry whatsoever. For the first time in over 6 months I am at peace. I feel very good about MY decision to end our marriage.
W reached out to me yesterday asking if we could do dinner Friday night - I said - No thanks. That's because your trigger is pointing in another direction now.
W sent me a text asking for advice on something -- delete. That's you being an a**hole. You're daughter will love those stories.
It sure feels a hell of a lot better being the WAS than the LBS. Don't kid yourself, you are not a WAS. You're a quitter. 6 months is nothing. It was not a stand. It was a fleeting feeling that you might be glorified by an attempt to do that "right" thing but when the result you wanted didn't come easy, you quit. That's the skinny.
Take my advice... once you feel you have reached the point of no return, move on. Indeed. But be sure that's what you're feeling and not just a hormone overload.
I've got some weekend planned.... Wow. Take it to the other board. What happens now is the new guys that are trying to stand are going to become influenced by your flaunting your affair while you're hyped up on those endorphins. By all means, have fun, but don't drag anyone down with you. There are other boards here for those who have chosen to move ahead.
