cut corners then, some things dont' "have" to be done the way they are just because that's the way they've always been. Like, I used to think frozen food was despicable, food just HAD to be made from scratch. I now buy frozen pizza and those bags with everything in them so I spend half the time in the kitchen.
Can she at least take him to practice/games ONE time per week? any friends from baseball her can ride with or you can trade with other parents?
She needs to know that you are miserable! that's should be enough for her to make some adjustments! it is easy for the working parent to over look how much the stay at home parent does.

Trying to regain some individuality is not being self absorbed. Rooting for you whapu))))))


Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2

30something
2kids
survivor of S, MLC, A, D
I have peace in my heart, at last.