hi peace- I just got caught up on your thread. I think you're doing fine and your plan sounds great!. Listing the positives that you see with your h and letting him know that you notice is a good idea. How can it hurt?

me- 42
H- 51
married 11 years
D-9, S-9, D-3

bomb 4/07
h moved out 8/07
h moved back 4/08