Affair is over and WW is responding

[Starshyne]

Hi hope4us..

I appreciate reading your sitch because you are right...we are in similar places. My H seems like the male version of your W. My husband realized that it was over on March 8. That was the day the OW texted me and said to let me husband know that if he ever comes to her home again she is getting a restraining order. So while my H is still "madly in love" with her and not me, she has dumped him. He has no where to go but back home to me. He plans on leaving whenever he can save up enough money. I am the one who makes the most money in our house (which isn't much) and have the same feeling that you had. Is my H using me so that he can save up a nest egg to leave?

I have many days where I just want to say to him...fine...you don't love me, you dont' find me sexually attractive and are unhappy. Then go. Take all of your DVDs and books and get out of my life. I can find someone better...someone who can respect me. But then I dont' say that because I want my M to work.

One difference I see is that H and I still sleep in the same bed. This is because we don't have an extra bed and only have a love seat in the house. I tried sleep on the love seat and was really uncomfortable. He is the one with the issues...so I figure that he can sleep on the love seat if he really wants.

Have you gotten a hug from your W yet?? I think I would kill someone for any type of physical touch. But I especially would kill for a hug from my husband. I miss that more than anything else right now.

Sara