I think I don't know what your problem is. For us dialoguing works even when it doesn't work. That is, we may not agree, but I understand where my husband is coming from. And I can adapt and learn to respect that. We are different people, we don't think the same and we don't feel the same. But we can adapt and we can compromise. To me, that is what life is about. Not finding the best life that is sitting somewhere else waiting for me, but building the best life right here where I am with what I've got. So my husband IS my husband and will be my husband until he dies. And my kids ARE my kids, whether they are the best husband possible or the best kids possible for me doesn't matter. Because they ARE. And this is my life. And I accept it for what it is.
