H just called in the middle of the day. I was surprised. He asked about D going to a party, but I explained that was yesterday. I told him about an exhibit I took the Ds to. He got quiet, so I don't know if he felt left out. Told him left a little early and we could go back w/ him. Even though he asked about D, he didn't ask to talk to her. So I guess he called to talk to me.
I asked H out to dinner on his way out the door. He said ok. I'll see if he actually goes through with it or if he comes up with an excuse.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Just a quick post, I am off this week, but I'm busy playing mom.
H and I went to dinner last night. Not sure if I should call it a date, because I don't know if that is what H would call it. I asked him to dinner and he agreed. I suggested a Mediterranean place that I knew H would like. While we were there, he even pushed on of his dishes over for me to taste. We spent about 1 1/2 hours alone. I did most of the talking but he did some. No talk about the R though. At this point I still don't know if there is an R. I continue to be hopefull as H continues to spend more time w/ us and keeps seeming happier and happier.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Wow I would love to go to dinner with H without the kids! Glad he is seeming happier. And you did a great job keeping conversation topics away from R talk. Hope today is going well for you...
Weekend is going fine. I thought H would want time alone w/ the Ds as he hasn't had a weekend alone w/ them because of weather, Easter and whatever. H will be out of town next weekend so I thought he would take this weekend. H ended up doing something w/ a friend yesterday that he used to do and had lost interest in. I thought it was good that he is regaining interest in the hobby.
I was in a mood in the morning yesterday. H actually made light of it and kind how snapped me out of it. At one point he smacked my bottom. That is the first he has done something that playful in I don't know how long. Hoping it meant something but I don't know. H called before he came home to check up on my mood. I wasn't real happy but I snapped out of it.
No idea what the "plan" is for today.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Good morning redhottie. If I may, just a quick comment on your post above. It appears painfully obvious that your mood is dictated by your husbands actions. I am in the same boat. We need to fight to get out of that "mode".
Your no idea of the plan today statement speaks volumes. Don't mean to be negative or blunt, just stating how your post comes across and comparing it to my sitch. In essence I am giving you advice that I should be giving myself. Hope your day goes the way you want it to.
No offense taken John. I realize that basically I'm living in WTF mode right now. As in wtf do I mean to H, wtf is he doing staying here for the last 3 weeks after he said he needs his own place, etc. I told a friend H has been playing family a lot lately, but he still isn't playing the role of a husband.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
How do you feel about asking him, directly? I am not suggesting that you do, I just want to know what keeps you from doing it. I mean ask all the questions you have right now. ALL of them. I understand how weird this must be for you and your Ds...
