Bring on the Rain

[fightingirish]

Hey saffie... how are you??

[saffie]

Hi tal,

Been in a bit of a wierd mood but seem to be shaking it off a bit now . How about you? Things settled down at all?

[fightingirish]

Good, im glad your ok. Ya know I don't like to post a lot lately because sometimes i think im whining.. maybe not.. things got worse before they got better.. but today there ok, tomorrow that could change

ups and downs, just tired.. kids have been sick on and off for two wks.. its a nightmare. can't wait for the warmer weather and all this sickness is gone!!

[saffie]

I know that feeling. Esp. as I feel I have it pretty good compared to most.....sometimes knowing that doesn't seem to help though!!!

You got my email addy - use whenever you feel the urge

I am off to bed now as it's 10.45pm here and H will get cross if I spend too much time on the PC.

I'm looking forward to the better weather too - and we change our clocks this coming weekend

[LL44]

Hey tal, thinking of you.

Sue, my. What a weekend. I am so sorry. My H does the same thing when I ask him what his plans are, he turns it around and asks ME what MY plans are. I ignore him now and don't ask. You are doing the right thing finding an apartment. Separation might be good at this point. You have fought the fight, and it seems you are dropping the rope (as I did in Florida) and that's good. I could list the dozen or more things that have been better in my life since H moved out. Of course, its hard, but its the better option. Any chance of breaking your lease before July? I think a separation would be better sooner....

I am so sorry about the experiences you have had with H in your past, and with your father. What a strong woman you are, even if you don't see it now. Look up Jewel's "Stronger Woman" on youtube, and listen. Its you.

[SueS]

lwb-

Hi there lady. I read your thread. So two days off and your H chose NOT to spend them with your DD's? Yeah, got on the computer tonight and saw H searching for flights. Who knows where!

But then, I got on and saw your suggestion on the song. Thanks. That made me smile. I'll keep that in my mind always!

Have a good night.

SueS

[SueS]

Well, I think H's family is leaving today. Typical H... He got home from work last night at 9:30 and almost immediately left to go workout. He made a Dr. Appt. for 10:00 this morning and then has to be to work at noon. So, he spent almost zero of the last few hours his family was here...with his family. I made the mistake last night of questioning why he would leave to go workout when his family was here.....all still up, all still wide awake. H just snapped at me. I thought maybe, just maybe H would help a little last night getting D3 and our niece to bed. Nope. Should have known better.

My SIL & BIL are still at the Mayo Clinic, but will be back up today. So, I took my FIL, D3 and niece to Chuckie Cheese last night. I DID. I love them, but let's remember that this is H's family. His niece is a sweet girl, but all she has to do is whine one time to my FIL and she gets her way. Poor D3 didn't understand why she couldn't stay up or get what our niece got. How do you explain to a 3 yr old that her cousin is spoiled and that's not how life is.

My parents are coming in today. D3 will offically be D4 on Saturday, so they're coming for her b-day. H wants D3 to go back home with them so he can get 100% caught up with his daycare expenses. Yes, after going out of town for a concert, going to one here, giving his brother $110 for a ticket for a concert they're going to in May....etc (I can go on).....he says he can't afford daycare and needs ANOTHER 2 week break to catch up. My parents are thrilled and want to take her with them, but mommy, not so happy. I just feel so tied to H when it comes to finances. We have our own accounts, but if he can't afford things for her then I'll have to take care of it....and I can't really afford it on my own.

So, I don't always read horoscopes, but I saw this one today.

Your horoscope - Today, March 27, 2008
A close friend or romantic partner is likely to be in a very angry mood today, Sue. In fact, it might be best for your relationship if you stay out of this person's way. Whatever he's feeling probably has little if anything to do with you. Stay out of his way and let him vent at somebody else. Find something interesting to do on your own and touch base with him when he's in a better mood.

Well, time to get busy. Have a good day everyone!

[Sara]

I can't tell you what to do, but you were very unhappy last time your daughter was away for an extended time. and then going to pick her up, driving long distances in winter weather was not a good experience either.

[fightingirish]

Sues,

Its amazing what they can find money for when THEY need it. But any other time, they don't have any money..

And ditto sara... you were very sad when she was away.. think about it a little more.

have a good day!

[SweetRedd]

Sue,

What happens if you don't allow him the two week break? With all the extras he affords himself, why should you have to part with your princess for two weeks so he can keep spending recklessly? Have you talked to him about paying for D3s expenses up front when he gets paid so you can depend on him paying his share? I hope you're documenting all of this.

He's unbelievable..grrrr.. I swear I'd be craiglisting or pawning his stuff if he was my H! He'd also have no internet, cable or phone service until his child was taken care of. but then I can be pretty b*tchy

(((SUE))) Hang in there and keep your head up for D3s bday. Maybe your parents can offer some advice that will help.

Sheila