I know what you mean about lack of affection. I have never considered asking my H to sleep in the guest room because of the kids. He sleeps on his side and I sleep on mine. It really sucks. Especially every once in awhile his foot will accidently hit mine or vice versa and you would think he just touched a hot stove! He pulls away that quick!!!
Come to think of it, I think H rubbed my leg last night?!?!? Maybe I was dreaming, or if I wasn't dreaming, he probably was.
Anyway, the weird thing is that now my kids are both sleeping in our room with us. S9 started coming into our bed in the middle of the night, but now he just pretty much starts there (except last night, he was on the floor and not between us so it IS possible that H rubbed my leg - hmmmmm). And now my D11 is sleeping on our floor every night!
Show your H you love him in very subtle ways...give him your full attention when he talks to you and look him directly in the eyes (even if he won't look at you). As hard as it is, show him that you are strong. The kisses and hugs you give him out of habit, may be interpreted as pressure by him. You've got to remove all pressure, but still show the love subtly.
I know its hard, and it is so frustrating that we don't get a response to the love we show, but it is what we need to do. Someday, in a way we may not even realize right now, it will pay off!
(((hugs)))
Nature Girl M 40 H 40 M 15, T 19 D11 S9 bomb 3/07 (MOW)
