For goodness sake, are our H's related? It's so darn sad that this is happening. I'll put some things on my thread about my goings on, but I just shook my head when I read yours. It was like I was reading my own thread.
I'm sorry. He wanted out. You'd think he'd be making things easier on the transition. Just odd. But, I guess that's the thinking of a mixed up man.
Wish I could help. My D3 (2 more days to D4!) would love to have some playmates and I'd even do it for FREE!
I think one of these days I'll make a tour which will include stops at some DB'ers houses. I'd go to IL/IN to see some friends and then swing down to MO to meet you and Hope. I'd love to do another Anheuser Busch tour! Then on my way back up to MN, I'd find out where in IA Olive lives!
Have a good day lwb, you deserve one.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I, by no means intended to leave you guys out. Trust me, I'm sure you could show us a good time. I've got an idea. How about I pick up lwb, Hope, Olive, mcojh and whoever else wants to come and we'll head your way. I can get a good rate on a 15-passenger van from my company, so I'll have a lot of room!! Maybe Mark & Rob can drive from Ohio and meet me in IN. Anyone else? Yoyo, Sara, Sheila, Karen, Joie...??? I hope I didn't miss anyone. Saffie, I can make a stop at an aiport too!
Believe me, from what some people have said about the DB get togethers, I'd love to do something like this some day.
SueS
Last edited by SueS; 03/27/0802:01 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I just caught up on your thread. I'm so sorry for what you are going through. You deserve to be angry....like everyone says it's one thing to do this sh$t to us...it's a whole different ballgame when you are talking about your girls. I'm afraid to say that it appears he is getting worse rather than better...maybe like someone else said he will hit the bottom soon....that might be his only hope to save himself from this self-destruction. Hang in there, be strong, and hell, be angry today if you need to. He's been at this way too long...he's not calling the shots anymore...lwb is.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
((((LWB)))) What childish jerk he is. It's amazing how these WAS shirk their duties and forget that they are adults and that they are parents. I believe it will truly come back to bite them in the a$$ one day...
Sues, Count me in for the DBing tour!!!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I went home last night and told H that he is being unreliable and that he needs to be here for me, so I can work, at 3pm Tues, Wed, and Thurs. I told him if he can't be here, then he either lets me know, or finds someone. That I will no longer assume he is coming unless he tells me. That I will not tell the girls he will be getting them off the bus (thanks Dr. Love!). That these little unreliable things will 'chip' away at them, hurt them, and disappoint them. I told him if he could think of a better way to handle our 'custody' arrangement, to let me know. He accused me of never being clear on my plans. Ok. Um. Yeah.
He was defensive at first, then calmed down. He said "Won't happen again, I'll take care of it". He then went on to spew about a few things (me being 'stubborn' about the house and how to handle it, and other things). I ignored it, said all I wanted to say was what I said, and we could talk about other things at another time (by this time it was 2am). I also said I refuse to discuss the house again until we sit down with a financial professional to discuss our options. He lingered for a bit, kept starting to say something, then would say "Forget it". Old LWB would have pressed "What? Say it". This LWB listened, waited, then ended the conversation.
Oh and he made sure I knew it was 'still over' and that he isn't changing his mind. Thanks, hon.
I am better today, hopefully on an upswing. So very tired though.
H showed up on time today, in a pleasant mood, and took my grocery/Walmart lists off the desk and took the girls shopping. They called from the car, got a few new clothes and were very happy. This is all I want.
Thanks for the support. I don't think H is near rock bottom. I just hope the girls don't suffer anymore.
I hope he got the message. You did a good job. My mind is blown by how the immature men always seem to have married a mature woman, and vice versa. Do you think that when one spouse grows up and acts mature, the other thinks 'Great! Now I can go back to being a kid and play all the time!"?
