I think putting the talk off is procrastinating. But it is her procrastinating, not yours. You've tried to talk to her before and her answer was she can't think of anything until this problem is solved. So in my opinion, you are being polite and waiting as you were requested to. And MMC is right. The little things are solving your problem. You could still ask for a back rub. That's what the chiropractor did for me when my back hurt. He had me lie on my side with the top leg bent, so the gluteal was stretched and then he massaged my bum. I thought it was a sad commentary that I had to pay someone to do that, but my husband was not very nice to me at that time in my life.
