WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

Christa and HIC, did you both really believe it when and if you said ILYBNILWY? And what were you thinking during the months of separation? Were your H's ever mad at you during that phase and did it push you further away?
I swear to you it was like a totally different person had invaded my wife's body.

I never told my H ILYBNILWY only thought it. During the sep. I was thinking I care about him, but I just don't have any hope that I will love him again or that things between us will improve. We are just two different people who can't communicate and will always be in conflict because of our different personalities and opinions. The following things that my H did or did not do pushed me away:
1. Pressuring me
2. Getting upset with me
3. Acting sad around me
4. Not working to change his behaviors (I don't blame him for this. We had a well meaning therapist who did not practice solution-based therapy and allowed us to argue every time we saw her)
5. Not understand or trying to understand my feelings or opinions. At times he would put thoughts/words into my head/mouth. He would say this is just how I am.

I tell you, looking back, it does feel like an alternate personality took over.