Amen Michelle. It's a defense mechanism because if they didn't do it they would have to admit to themselves that THEY are a bad person, and who wants to admit to that. Add the fact that there is NOTHING worse in the world you could do to someone you vowed to love, honor and cherish, forsaking all others and of course the denial is going to come out.
It still sucks for us, even if we understand it.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
