Trust for me is easy in some ways. I'm surprised by how much my M/R are so back to "normal" - which obviously makes me nervouse, if normal wasn't good enough before. What I find I don't trust, at a very deep level, is that she won't hurt me again. I wish that if she wasn't sure about us, or is unhappy, or wants to be with the OM, she'd just do it, and let me get on with my life.
Eerie. I could have written this post, it's exactly what I feel when I let myself think about it.
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I think I need to peice it all together, and build a patch work. Get what I can from my M/R, but don't expect her to be the be all and end all.
I think you're right on this one. It's easy to fall into thinking your S is the be-all...but I think that's the biggest lesson of all of this: that ultimately your happiness depends on your choices.
That said, if she's falling into patterns that don't work for you (being bossy, arrogant, etc.) you need to discuss your concerns with her.
