and remember that regardless of what is going on in your lives, you can always work on you and your marriage. working on your marriage does not have to be obvious. just like the shampoo bottle, your wife will notice the little things. in fact it may BE those little things that have more of an impact than something that appears to be out and out "relationship fixing".
my 2 cents.
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and remember that regardless of what is going on in your lives, you can always work on you and your marriage. working on your marriage does not have to be obvious. just like the shampoo bottle, your wife will notice the little things. in fact it may BE those little things that have more of an impact than something that appears to be out and out "relationship fixing".
my 2 cents.
Yes MMC you are Wise. I think I will work on the little things right now until the time is right...
And with that said my reading for today:
Your urge to get closer to someone in your social circle is becoming almost unbearable. But before moving forward, pay closer attention to the clues they are sending -- they are quite mixed! This person might not be quite ready to open up to you. To test the waters, keep your conversation light. Resist your urge to ask them to spend the rest of their life with you! Baby steps will get you closer to their heart than giant leaps (and they are a lot less intimidating!).
Dr Love
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Let your generosity and compassion play a major role in any type of bargaining you do today. You can't focus so intently on how much you give others in the context of a negotiation -- if you do, you will always feel like you're on the losing end of the deal. Instead, you have to focus on the connection you are enjoying with this person. Work toward having a future with them in some way. If you do, the goodwill you exhibit will be far surpassed by the goodwill you gain from others.
Capricorn December 22 - January 19
You've been thinking that a conversation with a difficult person won't go well -- but if you have that talk today, you will be pleasantly surprised by the results. This person is totally ready to talk to you, and ready to work with you to make things better. A lot of positive collaboration is possible today, especially if you reach out and show that you are willing to do what it takes to make progress. The situation will only improve if you persevere. So keep talking -- and keep going!
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I think putting the talk off is procrastinating. But it is her procrastinating, not yours. You've tried to talk to her before and her answer was she can't think of anything until this problem is solved. So in my opinion, you are being polite and waiting as you were requested to. And MMC is right. The little things are solving your problem. You could still ask for a back rub. That's what the chiropractor did for me when my back hurt. He had me lie on my side with the top leg bent, so the gluteal was stretched and then he massaged my bum. I thought it was a sad commentary that I had to pay someone to do that, but my husband was not very nice to me at that time in my life.
