Luv, you don't need to make any big decisions about your H now. I know the financial situation has always been a bug bear for you. If he is willing to take the job still I would be tempted to go with that as it shows some intention to try at some level of family responsibility - and the income would be useful.
Other than that - see how you feel - you don't have to make any final big decisions.
I can't even begin to think how much this must be hurting - it sounds like he is offloading all his guilt - that probably helps him but hurts you. If he is being truly honest though and telling you because he wants your R to work, (at whatever level), then that must be good. Think.....all that time you were snooping and trying to catch him out you NEVER got this sort of information or admission. You reform and stop snooping and he feels guilty and tells you. Wow. In a way it's like he felt justified in lying to you before because you were out to catch him - and now he's telling you - wow.
The reason for his coming clean and telling you might only surface with time. Keep hanging in there and know that we are thinking of you.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
