You guys think too much of me. I'm still here cause I'm sort of afraid to move to piecing! It's tough over there!
Originally Posted By: hurtmom
H has told several of our friends he is afraid to come back to the marriage and have things not work and then to be left alone. States that is why he wont leave OW.
I got this from my H in a different format. We were having an R talk before the A was over. Long story short, he was afraid that the changes he saw in me were temporary and if he recommitted to me, and things went back to the way they were, then "OW would be gone". He thought what they had was that good. I did show him that I changed. But it takes time...
Finding the stuff in your H's car is tough. Those triggers will fade over time and get less painful. Focus on the present, and the future, not the past!
