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[tpaschal]

I feel that if I accept I have given in. However I'm also tired of fighting.

Oh, Alison, I really understand this. I felt the same way, and I still do sometimes. I feel like, by going along with the D and, in fact, accepting that it is the best thing for ME, I am validating H's decision to walk out. This has been so hard for me to deal with, and I still have not dealt with it completely.

What I try to do, is to remind myself that we can come to same conclusion for different reasons. In my case, I agree that D is the best thing for us, not b/c I am a lazy, self-centered coward(!), but b/c our M could not work with just me trying to make things better.

Nic,

Wow. HOW did you get to this place? I feel exactly like ACJ. I am struggling against it so hard---accepting a D. I can't accept that a D is what's best for any of us---me, H, or the kids. But it appears I have no choice. So how did you get to that acceptance? I would really appreciate it if you could check out my thread here on the MLC board. I am spinning and could use some input.

Thanks.