It has been a couple of days, still in a holding pattern of ups and downs. Nw I find out that my wife is having an affair with the ex fiance of the OW! Over the last week she has admitted to being at his apt. 4Xs.. Last night she didn't come home until 4 am, leaving our oldes son alone on the third floor of our house for several hours before I came home at 2 am (I work overnights), and worse yet is she knew I would be home at 2 and she didn't even try to hide it.
Today she acted like she was ready for bed when I left for work at 945, so on a hunch I swung past the house at 1100 to find out she had left again. When I tried to call her several times she refused to answer only sending a text message "Dont call me anymore"
When she did finally answer the phone I told her I was once again leaving work because of her insanity/leaving the kids alone, and that she might as well stay at her lovers since that is what she prefers. She hung up on me. Here it is almost 3 hrs. later and she is not home and has not called.
I will be the first to admit that my affair was the worst thing I could do to my wife and kids, and not to justify my actions, but I never neglected the kids to sneak off with the OW, as a matter of fact I often used the kids and their activities as a way to avoid spending time with the OW.
I am at a loss of what to do now. My wife is very hurt and angry, and because of that she is sleeping with someone to give me a taste of my own bitter medicine. While she is hurt and angry doing what she does, telling me it is none of my business I get more and more sickened by what she is doing to me, our family and especially herself.
I want this nightmare to end before there is so much damage that our life cannot be fixed.
Please help me, I will entertain any advice from the hurt partner of the unfaithful partner, because as it turns out now I am both.
I am asking for help and or advice, not sympathy. After all I started this and I am feeling plenty sorry for myself right now.
