Hey jas....I was a cheater in my marriage and yes, this is pretty much on the ball with your SO.
Time will be needed on your part and for one thing to not be brought up....I think it says it in the book also is, don't bring it up again to him. It is all still fresh in his mind and it will take a little while for him to come to terms with it. He knows he has lost your trust and that is HUGE for any man. It is something we feel we work really really hard to get right and this is the ultimate nail in the coffin for the that work that has just been pissed out the window. He knows he got nothing out of the A and that is the worst part also. A double negative.....hard to rebound from that.
