Minkerman: Soothing the skittish spouse!

[Marcum]

MM on your trip just keep doing what your doing. if you play the Anniversaryu card you may get discuraged if she does not respond in a way your were looking for. you already ML ( something i would kill for with mmy W ) so the romantic /phisical part is there so dont worry about being viewed as a friend. but BEING a friend is what won her over in the first place all those years ago. like you have said let her bring up relationship, while you bring up you friendship to her.. just my 2 cents

[minkerman]

She has emailed me 3 times today. I have responded to two. One of them was a list of outlets and malls in Seattle, she wants us to go shopping when we are there in 2 weeks, and I am totally cool with that. In the email she said "We're all set! :-P "

I am trying to be dim, not dark...I know she needs space so I am being very careful.

Thoughts? Am I overthinking this? Should I be more responsive, or less?

[Broken Tree]

Perfect Minker..maybe thinking to much but that's ok by me. Go do something nice for yourself.

[cw68]

Better too much thinking than acting.

[minkerman]

I just this minute sold my car!

I will no longer be driving my Audi convertible, which I feel does not suit the "new MM". With my new self-awareness, I feel strongly that this car was a way to say "look at me!".

Time for something a little more authentic and down to earth, something that suits my confidence and renewed self esteem!

A really nice couple will be giving me the money tomorrow at lunch time.

Nice end to a neutral day.

[minkerman]

Just got off the phone with W. The timer said 63 minutes!

Really, really nice convo....all positive, very little R talk, other than "how did we get to this place?"

Talked about her work, my work, things we wish we did over the years, our upcoming trip to the States in 2 weeks, etc etc.

We talked a bit about our changes, she is really noticing mine, so that's a good thing.

Anyway, off to bed!

[cw68]

Did she call you or did you call her? I think that if you talked that long, it doesn't really matter, just wondering.

Good deal. I can't remember the last time I talked with my H on the phone for that long. It's a nice thing.

[minkerman]

cw, I called her. She had asked me to look for a couple of things for her around the house, via email...I was gonna email her back but thought what the hell, I'll call her. Glad I did, it was really nice.

[cw68]

Good deal. A 63 minute enjoyable phone call IS a good thing.

[Marcum]

awsome mink. your on a level ground right now. your not backsliding and your not moving super forward ( the how did we get her comment was that from you or her?) your on netrual ground which is how relasonships start.