Hi Jasmine. So sorry you are here, but its a great place for support. No one will understand better the pain you are going through.
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I didn't realize that pain like this existed apart from the death of a loved one.
Its been said its more painful in some ways than the death of a spouse. I never understood that, until I realized that death is not a choice, where what my H is choosing to do is his choice.
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What I'm wondering is, is this common?
Unfortunately yes. Your H seems to be acting very typical in this situation. I am sorry about the affair, and I know it hurts for him not to be very 'sorry' about it. And you pegged it, he is mourning the loss of this other woman.
Please go buy Divorce Busters and Divorce Remedy (or check it out from the library). You will find many answers to your questions in there, as well as a great plan to help yourself feel better as well as possibly helping your marriage along the way.
Keep on being positive and calm around H. Our situations/timelines are fairly similar (with the affair).
