Hey M....I don't know how BK got on the church wagon and started quoting stuff but I can tell you that dealing with the in-laws is sometimes a losing battle. Sure, deal with them when necessary but don't go and try to placate to them. Deal with her guilt trips? Nah....agree to disagree would be a better option. Accepting your faults is good. Preventing them from happening again....also a step in the right direction. Starting out in a new relationship, you have learned from your mistakes and prevent them from happening again. With your wife's issues, SHE has to deal with them, especially if it is something that is going on in her head. You really can't "fix" her problems....or correct the demons that are running around in her head. Ya see that stuff in a lot of sitches around here and you'll keep getting that line..."Work on yourself because you are the only one that can fix you"....and the best that can happen is that the current wife sees that and accepts the fact that you are making a consciensious(?) to make things work and get things going in the right direction.
