Quote: There has been a lot of research lately on the biology of sexual desire and how it relates to infidelity. There is evidence now that women have a biological trigger for infidelity. So when your wife loses all sexual interest in you, and then recovers her interest with another man, it might have nothing at all to do with how supportive or sensitive you were in the relationship. She might have just had her infidelity gene triggered. And since society does not allow her to cheat, she had to divorce first.
there's research on all kinds of things. sure knowing why is helpful, but we are more than just mere biological animals, we are complex human beings. there is research about affairs, mlc, alcholism, abuse and a whole lot of other unproductive types of self distructive behaviour...just because the research shows that we are on a basic animalistic level wired for such behaviour doesn't exuse it.
even the divorce busting book gives some reasons (without getting to psychological) why people have affairs live or via the internet, sexual or emotional. All the research is intended to do is find reason, it is not intended to excuse the "bad" behaviour. I could easily sit and say if I were to have an affair it would be justified as a biological need of mine isn't being met, but would my actions be justified? not really, they would simply be understandable. there is a cause and effect for all behaviour good and bad, that doesn't make it ok.
