I am not placing all the blame on myself..I'm just taking responsibility for my part. We did talk about kids before the marriage and the possibility that the vas could be reversed but there were money issues and my indecision about having another child led my wife to think that I was just stalling..Not the truth but my wife thinks that. We had things coming at us one after another, built a new house, pressure for a baby from W and her family, money issues, those things made me question the decision about having another child. I waffled=she thinks I made her wait on purpose. The MC let us both know tonight, my first marriage and W's dealings with her mother(not stepmother) were very big problems..If my W had stepped up to the plate and told her mother right off the bat to not interfere and back off then I don't think we would be where we are now..IMO You are correct mother has never let go and never will..I feel I must learn new ways to deal with her mother's guilt trips and not get angry. Getting angry puts my W in the middle. Not a good place for her.
