Happy Easter to all my friends!!!

[favoriteweirdo]

hey, it's BFM not FW as the post says. WE are on our home computer and he's signed in here and rather than sign out I'm just posting under his name.

Now, we both have read your posts and discussed. We actually decided that God was speaking to us just now since we were reading when you bumped your thread.

Anyway, FW and I both looked and FW sees it as your husband trying to get to you through your s18. also, your H is most likely taking his stress out on your s18.

FW lived this at your son's age. His dad took a very stressful situation out on him too and confessed finally after about a year that this was what he was doing.

In addition, FW is a complete momma's boy and sees that when his dad was doing the same thing he was using him to get to his mom. Thinks your H may be doing the same. Using your s18 to get to you.

As far as him trying to maintain a connection - this is also highly likely as well. If he is able to draw a reaction out of you then it is obvious to him that you still care for him. He most likely wants to make sure that you do still care in a round about sort of way.

Keep praying and looking to Him for help. That is the one thing that helped me the most throughout all this. You seem to be a very spiritual and very grounded person which is great. We will keep you in our prayers.

Stay strong. you seem to be doing great.

One other thing - Your H is not doing this on purpose to be malicious to your son or because he hates him. It is important that your son realizes that his dad does still really love him, but that he's under a tremedous amount of stress and s18 is the easy target since dad doesn't really know how to deal with all of it right now and can't deal with as FW says the "[censored] sandwich" he has made for himself. What can an 18 year old son do to his dad? Not much, he is still his dad and s18 is unable to walk away since he will always be his dad where you on the other hand CAN walk away if you choose.

BFM