With our very long history together, there are probably numerous ways I could have unintentionally injured her psyche. I could keep on guessing forever. Maybe I should just ask her, "Have I ever done anything that still hurts you to this day?".

After she finishes writing out the 20-page list ( ) then I can proceed to apologize and promise to be more sensitive and caring. Anyway, we are overdue for another deep heart-to-heart discussion.