Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[newnamenewlife]

I have a sinus infection and the most painful sore throat. I asked H to drive me to the doctor today and he did; the old him would have offered to do that and would have brought me soup and cared for me. These constant reminders of his lack of feeling for me are just killing me.

I am also obsessed with the fact that he now initiates NO affection at all. I still do at times, but it is becoming humiliating. I want to tell him he can't share my bed if he refuses to touch me, but that seems like bad DBing. I think if he remains hell-bent on separating, then it's probably good for me to get used to no affection from him. I'm sure that is what he is thinking. But it's so lonely. What do I do? Asking him to sleep in a different bed or sofa will raise immediate alarm bells for the kids and since the reality is that we can't afford for him to move out soon, we're not ready to tell them anything.