Christa, I am not sure if it is his pride or his guarding his heart. In my case it is a healthy dose of both. I feel she betrayed not only me but our family. The despair I feel when I think of the broken trust is indescribable. I often think that there is no way I would/could take her back because that trust and sense of security that I had with her is gone. How could I ever completely trust her after the hurt that she has caused all of us out of such a selfish act. Don't get me wrong, I want to want her back. I want my old life and my old wife back...but that is not possible.
To answer your question... if there is one thing that I think could possibly move me to the point of trust and love would be to see a real a change in her. I have always been the affectionate one and I have always desired her to be more affectionate. If I would see a change like that then in my mind it could really show me a change of heart and would go a long way to healing in my mind. I don't know if there is something that your husband has desired in your relationship, but that is what could help move my heart closer towards trust and a return of love for my wife.
