It's so sad that your IL's are choosing to believe what your H is telliing them. They know what kind of person you are and should be able to determine what is truth and lie. I do think the parents of the MLCer may be particularly desparate for a R with the MLCer since they seem to shut everyone out, even their parents. And I can in a way understand it because I would be terrified of losing a R with my kids. But on the other hand I would hope I'd be able to see the truth and call them out on it if I felt they were lying. Who knows. It's easier to "say" what you would do if you haven't been put in the situation.
None of this however is a reason to let a R with their grandson go. There are no winners in that situation. Your S18 loses out on so much, and so do they. Has your S18 tried to reach out to them? I believe the grandparents should be doing the reaching, but just a thought.
Long day at work, D5 is at a playdate for a little bit and D9 is at CCD. I have to go pick them up in 30 min then run them to Brownies and pick them up an hour later. Then we come home and get ready for tomorrow. I'm pooped.
