Hmm. My 2 cents here. When we were dating the sex was great. When we moved in together it happend less. When we got married it became even less. When EX became pregnant it slowed to a crawl, maybe twice a month. When Son was born I was lucky to have it once a month.
She was so full of excuses. I'm tired. I have a head ache. I'm fat. I don't feel pretty.
I had three choices. 1. do without 2. have an affair, 3. convince her to change. Well I did the first choice and I regretted it. Any woman who puts her needs above everybody's is just downright selfish. I'm sure she could have said the same for me, but I wasn't forcing her to have sex, yet she was forcing me to do without.
I sees nothing wrong with breaking the vow, especially when the other already let it die. Life is too short to be unhappy and miserable for the rest of it.
Sex is a need for a man thats just as important as food and water. Sorry it's a biological need.
My Ex filed for the divorce , she wasn't happy, fell out of love etc. I was celebate with her for two years for no reason. I could have had it on the side instead of doing without. And still ended up here divorced. Heck she could of even approved of the affair as I would have been in a better mood, less argumentative and wouldn't of pestered her for sex.
I would have been happy, no estatic with twice a week.
The funny thing is that now my EX's sex drive has returned to normal. That's great for her and her boyfriend.
I know her sex problems were hormonal. The girlfriends I've had since the divorce think I'm a porn star or something. Let's say I had some built up energy to release. Yes I tried to passionate with my ex and "make love" not just have sex. She had a problem but refused to acknowledge it or seek help for it.
My advice go to your wife and tell her the three choices. Let her decide. You can't force her to have sex, but she shouldn't force you to do without either.
Finally,
I'd love to meet a married as you decribed. I've been divorced since April 2002 and am not ready for any type of relationship or commitment. Yeah, I've had girlfriends, but they wanted R, I didn't. So there.
