I would have been MUCH more hostile than what you describe regarding kids meeting OW. I think you handled yourself beautifully. If you do get to meet her (even if just on the phone), make sure to keep your composure. Let him see you as the bigger person. I think it might surprise him if you are pleasant and keep the convo with her to kids and their interaction with her, rather than about the fact that she is with H now. Good luck, and let us know what happens.
