Quote: I'm still balking at calling off the affair, which is selfish and weak, I know, I know. But I feel like I need to see just a tiny bit of progress at home before taking that step.
dude if you are at all serious about repairing your marriage then call off the affair...waiting to see progress at home before you call it off would be like waiting to loose a few pounds before you actually go on that diet..or expecting to see some muscle gain before you actually walk into the gym...
you can't work on your r with your w if you are screwing some other woman.
plus just imagine the extra complications your marriage will suffer if your w finds out about the a...which by the way eventually she will..they always do!!
I understand that sex is important...it's a need etc...but by continuing to have this r with the ow...even if it is just for sex (it seldom stays that way for both parties what if the ow starts to have feelings for you and THEN you decide to shut her off...then you'll be faced with ow threatening to tell your w...get out fast and go buy some magazines til w is ready to work on that area with you) is a dangerous thing and is undermining the progress that you and w may make.
I am not speaking to you just as any woman...I am speaking to you as a high drive woman married to a low drive man...so I understand your frustrations...thing I realized is that when I focus less on the physical r and more on the emotional r..the sex just seems to come along with it.
