We have been married for 43 years. The last 12
years have been hell. My husband reconciled with his mother in 1991 after not speaking for over
20 years. After that the only woman in his life
was his mother. She never had anything according
to her and I had everything house, cars etc. He
spent the next 11 years making it up to her and
lying to me. Needless to say, we spent alot of time not speaking. When she was dying he turned to
another woman for help. He couldn't discuss his
feelings with me because he had lied for so long
about everything he had done for his mother. He
was able to talk to the OW. She sent him a note
about being in a unfilling relationship. After
meeting with her for drinks and understanding
they started an affair and he told me he wanted out. In the meantime, the OW had been divorced
twice and had countless boyfriends. She had been
living with a man for over 7 years and threw him
out for my husband. They were together for over
4 months. He even got Viagra. After his mother
died, he wanted me back. Because of family
circumstances, I took him back and we started counseling. To this day, he will not admit to me
that they had an affair. She was just a good
friend. All his friends knew about the affair.
One couple went on vacation with my husband and
the OW twice. I know that the OW is back with her
old boyfriend because a mutual friend told me.
Ow has nothing good to say about my husband. I
know he's a good BSer and and she obviously believed every word he said. I have no sympathy
for her. When I think about the two of them
together I want to throw-up. As I read the posts
I can relate to the pain. It's encouraging to read
the people that have eventually were able to move
on with their lives. It's been a year now, and the
most frustrating part is the fact, he can't admit the truth and is still friendly with the couple he
went on vacation with. I never want to see them for the rest of my life. I've stopped even trying
to talk to him about it. He says he loves me and
wants me but there's no apology, no remorse. [Confused]