I was just reading your thread and I thought what you said about asking H to make time for you was interesting. It sounds to me as though your H has been taking some baby steps towards you and then possibly retreating a little afterwards. Could he be scared of getting hurt?
Anyway, the reason i wanted to post was that you mentioned that you'd asked H for some a while ago....
Originally Posted By: christarn
A few weeks ago I asked when his overtime was finished, if he could make some time for me. He said via a text, I don't know, I've got to much s*it to do. So I'm just afraid if I push too much, he will retreat even more.
I wonder if you might consider trying to ask in a different way; the asking may not be wrong, but reading that you'd asked H to make time for you, it sounded a little needy. Would it be worth asking H if he wants to join you doing an activity that you know he'll enjoy? Eg
"Hi H. I was thinking of going to XXX and was wondering if you fancy that? It sounds like fun."
If he says no, or makes an excuse, say you're going anyway- you can show him how you're GALing and are independent. And if he says yes, that's fantastic!
By the way, HIC- I really liked your thread in Newcomers aswell. I've been in friendship with my H for about 4 months now and am getting baby steps towards stage 3 (I think). It's hard to tell for sure!
OD
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
