As far as meeting in the middle goes, we are already there as far as she is concerned. With our youngest child's birth, sex went from rarely to never. She made comments like sex is just for making babies, and we're done making babies.
Back in college, we lived separately but slept together and had sex almost every night. I never asked for it, she gave quite freely. That dropped off right after marriage and got worse after first kid was born.
In her mind, marriage meant she could stop with all the sex activity, it was just to keep me interested. After marriage I was committed, thus no more need to keep me from looking around. In my mind, marriage meant I get to have sex whenever I want it. So after almost 20 years we have reached an equilibrium, at least one that she is very comfortable with.
Amazon hasn't shipped my order yet, but I will be sharing the SSM book with her when it arrives. We'll see where that goes, but due to recent events I am hopeful!
