Need some hope

[Hope4us]

That's what I keep having to remind myself although I'm still dealing with WW being pretty secretive on some stuff. But I guess I think the time will come when she's put enough distance between her and OM that the secretive stuff will fall by the wayside, at least I hope. If it doesn't, I don't care how committed she is to our marriage, it would be a deal buster for me.

If she agrees to NC, do WHATEVER you can to make sure there is NC until you go to the beach. The first few days won't be so bad, but then about 4 days in (if she's like my WW) it will really start hitting her. When my WW's OM ended it with her the first time she lasted about 4 days and then HAD to contact him. Right after that contact her mood went through the roof (in a good way). I don't think my WW's severe WD was as bad when OM ended it after the STD exposure. It's like he must have ripped her so bad that the severe WD wasn't needed so much. But I'm still dealing with the residuals and probably will be for a while. But I can wait.

You should be able to tell if NC is in place by her moods. Bad Mood = Good for you. Watch for it.