What a concept! Works great on paper, too bad it don't seem to work out that great in real life!
"I have a meeting next Tuesday at noon, but it should be over by 5:00, so if you could have the young'n take a nap between 5:30 to 5:55, we could have some intimate time together".
It was fine that your C suggested a "vacation" from sex. However, all vacations must have an end.
From what you said, it seems like the birth of your child was a major shifting point in your sexual relationship.
The good news is that this seems to be normal.
The bad news is that this seems is normal!!
Don't get too discouraged about this, I think we'll be able to dig up some possible solutions to this problem as we go along with the program here.
More random thoughts and questions here....
You say she is a fierce competitor, and negotiator, in all of her dealings. That she pretty much refuses to lose.
How do you think this effects your intimate life together? Do you think this is also a "win/lose" situation to her?
When it comes to your sex life, when do you think that she feels that she's "won", and when she's "lost"?
Do you feel like you've "lost" when she has "won", even though the sex has been there, and been good?
So meeting in the middle in our sex life is nothing close to meeting my needs.
What is her side of the middle?
Before the birth of your child, when were the times your sex life has been best? What were you doing then? How were the two of you really connecting?
After the birth of your child, when were the times your sex life has been best? What were you doing then? How were the two of you really connecting?
JJ
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