I'm seeing a big imbalance here. When were the times that the 2 of you were more connected on both an emotional, and a physical, level?
We have discussed this over the years, and we both agree that when we go on vacation, we really connect. We both love to travel and explore new places, we have no worries about cooking, cleaning, bills, kids' homework, work stress, etc. And we have great sex, usually twice or more each week. I'd go for twice a night, but I am ecstatic about twice a week.
The glow will last for a week or two after the vacation. Then it's back to our normal patterns.