PH
Yes it is possible that H wants to keep things friendly between us
The other day when I said how I felt and I reminded him thst I live here and He needs to be the one to leave..I could see hwe was amazesd that i could be the one to ask him to leave and I did
maybe it reminded him that I dont have to agree to his visitation rules..That I could choose to not allow him in my home
I also felt that I have seen 2 positives this week
1. He called yesterday and we connected for a 30 minute talk
2. Sunday , he was playful with kids and set a video boundry
and it could mean nothing just a good day
but either way I hope my H can eventually become a more available present dad..one that interacts with kids not just watches tv or goes to gameroom

also I am sticking to my plan as i feel it is right
I am going to keep going /detaching and I will
observe for any changes that indicate H is moving somewhere /anywhere
I will not pursue or initaiate much contact, but I will continue to be available if H would like contact for now
pray, take care of me, meditate and listen, and trust myself
and let H go
thanks for listening
peace


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow