Hope, I know how you feel...we have all been there. I agree with MRsH and everyone else who said you should consult a lawyer. You do not have to file...just get information.
This just happened and no decisions need to be made now. You do need to eat and rest and begin going out, even for a walk with your dogs.
I feel sick for you because I remember the feelings well..I did what you did, pleading, begging, crying making him feel guilty.
H left me with the same excuse that he needed to think things over...the next day he wanted a D...within a month he was living with OW. I also have a very stubborn H and I swore that even if he didn't want the D he would go through with it because it was something he started and he would never want to admit he was wrong.
I stopped talking to him unless I had to. (we have two small children) I did see a L for information and I had no intention of filing for D. If H wanted it he was going to have to do it without help from me. I continued to put my children first and tried to GAL. H filed for D in March of 2007 and we went to court in June 2007 for our preliminary meeting.
I faked it and made it all business...H had no idea what was going on with me and I guess it made him really think because a week after we went to court...H came to me to say he made a mistake and wanted to come home.
He withdrew the divorce and we have been going to MC ever since to get our marriage back on track.
Hope...there is hope. Give it time and patience!! If H moved out why is he staying at home in your bed?? Sounds to me like he is not totally ready to do anything!!
You will find so much support here, we have all been there, the tears, being sick to our stomachs, not being able to imagine moving forward with life alone...vent here and you will receive great advice from people who care.
