Affair is over and WW is responding

[Snow White]

Guess what in Ontario where i live spousal support is for the rest of your life,(unless your spouse lives common law or gets remarried). which I guess sucks if you just hate each other but is good in sitches like most of ours where if H or W leaves they are on their way to OP.

I don't think it is unrealistic for you to be concerned about this change in how she wants to do the finances especially given what you already know. Of course your thoughts are why now? My H has been discussing money a lot lately too - and we don;t have a lot to spare. It concerns me because he was never interested before. And like you I do not believe he has an understanding of how his lifestyle would change if he were not to have my income anymore(although he continues to joke about collecting spousal support from me). However, I would not like the idea of him staying with me because he feared his own financial stability.

My only comment was that a H role is to provide for his W that I think was a bit harsh. That being said I am sure you are not the only person to have thought this way, man or woman.