I feel mostly like my marriage is working well. Let's say my fantasy came true and we spent 30 minutes every day having sex. That's just slightly more than 2% of the day. Do the math. And that is for a very hot and heavy sex life.
Raising kids, shopping, planning vacations, cleaning, cooking, yardwork, movies, on and on and on. Our days are filled with so many things that we do as a couple. I'm not greedy, I will settle for one percent. That's like 45 minutes twice a week. In exchange, she can ask me to do any task of her choosing, 45 minutes, twice a week.
She says I am treating her like a prostitute, trying to pay her to have sex. I love how smart she is, but man does she know how to quickly shut down my logic.
Then I get a call from the OW, she says please come and do me, I can't take another day of masturbation. "Not now, I'm trying to pay my wife to have sex with me."
